Set the goals………Set the ways to accomplish them!!!

In such an expensive world there is nothing but to dream is the cheapest to be ever achieved. But the scandalous cost of this cheapness gets enlightened when we grander our caliber, knack and dexterity to make that small part of imagination, an authentic visual. Then only we realize the difference between dreaming and turning the dream into reality. And then comes in light the need of selecting the paths to obtain your goals successfully. Because many times we find that we are constantly missing goals we have set for ourselves, even when we know perfectly well that we could have achieved them? Well you are not alone….infact this is something that goes with all of us and the three main factors causing this imbalance can be categorized as:

• You did not really want to achieve the goals in the first place.
• You wanted to achieve the goals but you did not have the skills to achieve them.
• You wanted to achieve the goals, even had the skills, but something totally outside of your control happened to stop you from turning your dreams in to reality.

Let’s explore these reasons one by one.

1) You did not really want to achieve the goals in the first place: People often set goals for themselves that they do not really want to achieve. They might set a goal to lose 20 lbs within 6 months but do not really want to change their behavior in order to be able to achieve the goal. This is quite simple to understand and resolve. If at the time you find it more painful to take all the necessary actions to achieve that goal then the likely outcome is that you won’t really go for it. And in life, not really going for something generally means not achieving it at all.

2) You wanted to achieve the goals but you did not have the skills to achieve them: Hey, it is Ok to have great goals for yourself. It is often said that once you really decide to do something the universe will make ways for you to achieve it. The teacher might even appear when you are “ready”. But you have to have learn how to walk so that you can go through those doors and get to the other side. You also have to be willing to do the homework that the teacher sets for you. So, once you decide to achieve a certain goal, help yourself by learning everything you can about how to achieve that goal.

3) Something totally outside of your control happened to stop you from achieving them: This is what most people claim to be the reason they do not achieve their goals. This is called making excuses for your failures. Don’t feel ashamed if you do this. We make excuses for not really making the effort to achieve what we have said we would. And since we do not want to admit that we are lying to ourselves we find external events to blame for our lack of effort. So….You have to start taking responsibility for your actions or lack of actions. Once you start doing it and stop blaming everything and everyone else, you begin to gain RESPONSE ABILITY. Failure to fully understand this powerful concept may stop you from fully realizing your full potential.

So what is the bottom line? The bottom line is that if you are constantly missing your goals then we must conclude that your conscious and subconscious are not aligned. When you state a goal to yourself, at a superficial level you probably believe everything you are saying. However, at a deeper level, the level we call your subconscious, things are a little bit more complex. Your subconscious looks at your history, your experiences (both real and imagined), and your beliefs. It then tries to compare this with the goal you have just set for yourself and projects the outcomes into the future.

Your conscious might make the initial decision. But it is your subconscious that determines what is possible. So the way to change your ability to achieve your goals is to actively bring your conscious and subconscious together. Make sure they agree and are aligned together. If not then either abandon the goal and find something else more agreeable, or start to train your subconscious to believe that you will go for your goal with intensity and that you are man or woman enough to accept the results no matter what. You can only achieve this by taking action to achieve your goals even when you are afraid. Don’t worry; we are all afraid, but taking action becomes easier with time and practice.

And Finally: Your subconscious loves you and is an integral part of the whole you. However, it is almost like an independent best friend or a loving parent. It loves and cares for you so much that it will do whatever it can to protect you from pain in the best way it knows. This could be either by stopping you from achieving your goals or by helping you achieve your goals. You have the power to influence which decision your subconscious makes. Align your conscious and subconscious and life will become much easier, more successful and more fun.

"So…Go ahead, if you have ever dreamt this is the right time to shape them.Go and astonish others by your definite accomplishment as its only you who can make the World ‘Impossible’ saying "I M POSSIBLE".

- Written by Sadiya Naseem